How To Improve Intellectual Compatibility In a Relationship?

Posted on September 16, 2009 | Leave a Comment

If you are asking the question of how to improve intellectual compatibility in a relationship, then I understand that some intellectual incompatibility exists in your relationship, doesn’t it? So how do you know it is there?

There are actually three main components to intellectual compatibility:

1. Speed of understanding and communication.

2. Amount of knowledge that each person possesses.

3. The identicalness of opinions or equality of the above knowledge between two people.

So, let’s take a look at each one of them, so you can see what it is, how to really measure it’s role in intellectual compatibility and how to improve it to bring you guys closer together.

Speed of understanding

Person can understand what he hears or reads based on his mind’s ability measured usually by IQ tests. So if the ability of minds between two people are different they would feel it while trying to communicate with each other. Have you ever talked to a really slow person? It took him or her forever to understand what you were saying and find a suitable answer.

Although education and mind training can substantially improve the IQ, it is usually monitored by additional factors, which you can find in an incredible book by L. Ron Hubbard called ‘Dianetics – The Modern Science of Mental Health‘.

Amount of knowledge

Even your partner is a sharp person and you enjoy talking about simple things, if you have deeply different educational background, this can heavily affect your intellectual compatibility. Because each time you deviate to a subject that one knows much better than another, you can anticipate misunderstandings and even emotional stress between you.

So, although knowing different things is not a problem in itself if the covered areas vary vastly between relationship partners they would feel inadequate to one another and here you get intellectual incompatibility.

Solution, of course, is to bridge the gaps in your education or fields of interests so that you most of the time can talk to each other without hitting the knowledge boundaries and limits.

Identicalness of opinions

Even if two people have an adequate IQ and even finished the same high school, their parents, friends, emotional preferences and so on can cause substantial intellectual incompatibility issues by simply not allowing you to agree on too many subjects.

So, please, take each one of such disagreements separately and discuss the origin of the opinion, where has it come from: school, books, other education, parents, friends and so on. When you find the origin of an opinion you can recheck it together. People seldom argue with cold facts, they might argue more on opinions they are not really sure of as a way to protect their stable data. So go on and try this out.

Summary

There is little in this world that really cannot be improved once thoroughly understood and looked into. This includes, of course, intellectual compatibility how to improve intellectual compatibility in a relationship, use the guide above and make it a fun game for both of you.

You can always take our ACE – Free Online Couple Compatibility Test which tests both communication and thus IQ compatibility and also verifies your agreements on the most important life questions, like food, sports, sex, children, work, money, pets, religion and so on.

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