How to Deal With a Lack of Compatibility in a Relationship?
Posted on August 3, 2011 | Leave a Comment
Hey, cheer up! Most of the couples are not fully compatible! How’s that for a fact? And yet, they survive, even spend good years together, learning to cope with the lack of compatibility in their relationship each couple in its own way.
Lack of Compatibility in a Relationship – What Is It?
Let’s define first what a relationship compatibility is, shall we? I have a tremendous luck to have studied such references as Science of Survival and Special Course in Human Evaluation both by L. Ron Hubbard where he specifically charts out a scale of behavior by which you can instantly know if two people are compatible in their emotions, agreements and communication levels.
As I already hinted a relationship compatibility can be defined being any two individuals who have very close reality levels, meaning, they agree on many things; the individuals who have similar communication speed and communication ability and who also have similar emotional level, like both being bored, angry or worrying about things.
Let’s look at some examples. Can you remember a couple where both partners talked at the same speed, could complete each other sentences and also showed similar emotional attitudes towards things? Well, here you are – that couple was compatible, wasn’t it? On the other hand, recall two people who could not agree on many things, argued all the time plus showed different emotional reactions to situations and people. Well, obviously they there you could notice a definite lack of compatibility.
One of the best ways to test for compatibility in a relationship is to take the Couple Compatibility Test together and check the results. But if you are already in a incompatible relationship, then I want to give you some advice on making it work after all.
3 Steps to Deal with Lack of Compatibility
And finally let’s take a look at 3 simple steps any couple can undertake in order to significantly improve their level of relationship compatibility. Since lack of compatibility in a relationship is caused by:
1. Too many disagreements
2. Different emotional attitude
3. Too incompatible communication speed
It is cured by:
1. Arriving to as many compromises and then agreements as possible.
2. Trying to understand and accept emotional attitude of the other.
3. Communicating as much as possible one with another so as to make the communication speed of at least understanding as fast as it can become.
The advice above works, although it is not always simple or even pleasant to follow it. But it is well worth the try, isn’t it?
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