How To Always Have What To Talk About With Your Partner
Posted on May 12, 2008 | 2 Comments
What do you regularly talk to your partner about? Do you have enough things to discuss? Are you interested in being together and speaking to each other? Do you run to describe how your day went and hear his or her opinion? Would you like to hear some friendly advice on how to answer yes to the last three questions? I suppose you would 
As I said in some of my articles, one of the key points in having a great fights-free relationship is agreeing upon things. If you both agree about a film you just saw, you can talk about it with no arguments. For the start – you went to see it together, didn’t you? Great! So, after you agreed at least to see it together, so you can start discussing it, right?
And, if you do discuss it, especially if you feel love toward each other, I suppose you would come to common agreed upon conclusions about the film. Doesn’t have to be exactly so, but I’m sure it is much better than seeing a film and not even talking about it later. In that case, it won’t bring you closer to each other, will it?
From here it is quite obvious, that doing things together opens up communication between the partners. It also builds up the list of things you both agree upon – whether you like them or hate them.
And a couple, who cares for one another, during discussions can arrive at more agreements and thus have a COMMON LANGUAGE, that exists only in the small world of their relationship. Kind of mystical, isn’t it? It is so great to feel like you belong to each other’s world and others are kind of guests there. Cool!
But what if arguments start during discussions? Well, I believe arguments may arise, since you might base your opinions on different facts or personal experiences. If you try to trace them back and show those facts or describe the experiences you had to your partner, so that the he or she really understands your position, then your partner might very well agree with you. And that is a great accomplishment.
The more agreements you have in common, the more you want to keep talking to each other and hear what the other person has to say about things, and so your relationship is getting warmer and better all the time.
Just like a good wine!
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I agree that in order to have a fight-free relationship it takes agreeing on things. Unfortunatley, when most people don’t agree it is usually becuse of their own fears and insecurities.
Best wishes
Absolutely David – you are right. But the good things is – COMMUNICATION resolves anything! Communicating your beliefs while not crashing those of others can bring a great improvement in agreements between any two people.
Alexander