Voting Question: Is this a good idea or not?
In February, my unofficial girlfriend gave me like a compatibility test out of boredom to see what we had in common. She asked me a mess load of questions. We turned out to have a lot in common and we are both aries and she thought that was cool. I asked her a couple back then but I still wanted to know more but never had time to ask her all. She loves me and I’m the only boy she talks to even though she said we are not a couple (she has major trust issues because she got cheated on 3 times in the past, not by me so she’s real insecure). We’ve been talking for 8 months and we established we can’t talk to no one but each other. I could have moved on but I wanted to show her all men aren’t the same and there are still some faithful ones so I didn’t leave her. I basically considered us a couple since I agreed to taking all 3 of my classes with her this semester since we have the same major. Schools out now, and recently we’ve been running out of stuff to talk about since we spent everyday together and I want to get that spark back and I want to gain her full trust. So today I made up some questions to ask her about relationships, love and what not. Is it too late to ask these questions being that we are 8 months already into talking?
Resolved Question: What do you think of sex before marriage?
Personally, I don’t see why sex before marriage is considered a sin, especially since it’s a natural instinct for human beings to crave sex. As long as you’re in a responsible, consensual, sexual relationship-what harm does it do to anyone else?
You wouldn’t buy a car without test driving it. Seriously sexual chemistry is needed, just like compatibility in every other aspect is important. The reason people date is to narrow down what they want in a potential spouse and that includes sexually.
PS: Notice I said RESPONSIBLE sex, that is not talking 13 year olds.
How old are you Lena? I know up until I was 16 I was disgusted by the thought of having sex, period. I just couldn’t understand why anyone would want to. Eventually though, you grow up and your views change. At 19, my viewpoints are completely different from when I was 14/15. I grew up in a religious family and so was brought up to think in a conservative way. When I actually started thinking through the things I had been taught all my life, I began to form my own opinions and those were different from what I was raised to think.
Resolved Question: What do you think of sex before marriage?
Personally, I don’t see why sex before marriage is considered a sin, especially since it’s a natural instinct for human beings to crave sex. As long as you’re in a responsible, consensual, sexual relationship-what harm does it do to anyone else?
You wouldn’t buy a car without test driving it. Seriously sexual chemistry is needed, just like compatibility in every other aspect is important. The reason people date is to narrow down what they want in a potential spouse and that includes sexually.
PS: Notice I said RESPONSIBLE sex, that is not talking 13 year olds.
hereforaparty- Yes, I’m Muslim. Surprisingly, though my parents aren’t really that repressing. They used to be and then I grew up and showed I was responsible. I dated a white guy for 2 years, and they knew. (which to anyone that’s not Muslim this is usually a pretty big deal)
Anyways, they still are conservative, but I think I’m one of the few Muslims that has a good relationship with my parents, bc I’m honest about how I am. The reason I’m asking this question isn’t for my own personal decision on having sex, like I said I wouldn’t buy a car without test driving it-so that’s my stance. But I am wondering on other people’s views on why it shouldn’t be allowed.
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